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Feministing Friday: Why Serial Monogamy is bad propaganda for women

Mar 02, 2012 - Tags:

Serial monogamy is actually very common among people, especially in our modern society. It goes a little somethng like this:

Boy and girl meet. They flirt. The date and decide they like each other. They decide to be a couple. They break-up. Repeat.

Let’s say you want to marry someone who’s right for you and by a certain period of time in your life. Playing by the serial monogamy rules you would date one person at time, give each a relationship serious go – say a year, then break up for what ever reason, take the time to learn and heal, and do it again. Even if you meet someone who may seem to be a better fit, you either have to let them them pass or end your existing relationship to find out more information. If you were to play the field you could date as many individuals as you like, for as long as you like. Honesty is encouraged, of course. For either strategy, you still have to be mindful of other people’s feelings (and STDs). Dating is not a consequence-free endeavor.

The point I’m making is that in life there are no guarantees that you will meet the right person in a certain amount of time. Heck, there’s no guarantee you’ll meet the right person, ever, but there is hope. And in an effort to hedge the odds in your favor, why wouldn’t you date as many great people as possible? Yet, more often than not young women tend to date serially, and young men do not.  I’m a rather vocal objector to these dating and relationship customs.  And frankly, I find the social support of serial monogamy sexist.  Here are my reasons why.

Source : Scientific American : Read the whole story here.

It’s His Immune System That You Actually Want to Sleep With

Feb 24, 2012 - Tags:

We've always assumed it was men's sexy faces, toned bodies, and feminist sensibilities that we women lusted after, but it turns out we might just have the hots for their immune systems. A powerful immune system might not sound as enticing as six pack abs, but in the long run it's probably more important. So it makes a fair amount of sense that we'd have developed a radar for who's body can defend itself, and a new study has found we rely largely on testosterone levels to tell who's healthiest.

Researchers from Abertay University in the U.K. recruited 74 Latvian men in their early 20s. They gave them a Hepatitis B vaccine, which triggers the immune system to create antibodies to fight the virus, and they took blood samples right before and one month after the first dose of the vaccine was given. They measured antibody levels, as well as levels of testosterone and the stress hormone cortisol. The researchers also showed photographs of each man to 94 Latvian women, who were also in their early 20s, and had them rate the pictures on a 10-point scale of attractiveness.

After analyzing the men's immune response and hormone levels in connection with their attractiveness score, researchers concluded that high testosterone correlated with both sexy faces and a strong immune response. It's not surprising, really, that women would find the more testosterone-y (that sounds like a pizza topping) faces more attractive, since that tends to come along with more masculine facial features—and who doesn't love a macho man? (Except all of the people who don't love a macho man.)

Source : Jezebel : Read the whole story here.

Online dating may encourage 'shopping' for mate

Feb 13, 2012 - Tags:

Online dating has become the second most common way for couples to meet, but it may encourage a "shopping" mentality in which people become judgmental and picky, focusing exclusively on a narrow set of criteria like attractiveness or interests, says a new study.

The analysis, based on a review of more than 400 psychology studies and public interest surveys, was released online Monday ahead of being published this month in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest.

"The internet holds great promise for helping adults form healthy and supportive romantic partnerships, and those relationships are one of the best predictors of emotional and physical health," said Harry Reis, one of the five co-authors of the study and professor of psychology at the University of Rochester.

Online dating has grown rapidly in popularity and social acceptance and is second only to meeting through friends, as a way for singles to connect, but it does have its pitfalls, Reis said.

Source : CBC News : Read the rest of the story here:

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